Psychological Counselor Ekrem Çağrı Öztürk gave information about the subject. We all have concepts of right and wrong. Right and wrong can vary from person to person, that is, it is subjective. When we perform an action other than what is considered right, we interpret that we are acting wrong or wrong. As a result of behaviors we consider wrong, some people experience regret and shame and begin to blame themselves. This is also an indicator that the person does not give himself the opportunity to make mistakes. People who tend to constantly judge themselves tend to blame themselves and others. If we remind ourselves that everyone's reality is different, we won't be inclined to blame someone else. Doing the best and the right thing worries us. By giving ourselves the opportunity to make mistakes, we avoid an accusatory attitude.
We can focus on how and by whom we learned the situations we describe as wrong or right. If our parents and those around us criticize, get angry, or scold us instead of telling us about the consequences of our negative behavior, we cannot learn to be compassionate towards ourselves. In addition, sentences such as 'What have I endured for you, I only talk so that you are happy, I always think about your well-being' leave a conscientious burden on the people in front of us under the guise of sacrifice. People who cannot perform the behaviors expected of them may feel guilty. When he cannot achieve success, rank, position, status, character or material possessions as desired, he focuses on the mistakes he made instead of drawing a new road map. People who constantly blame themselves have difficulty taking steps and may become lonely because they think others will blame them too.
Psychological Counselor Ekrem Çağrı Öztürk said, "People who think that they harm those around them with every action may feel intense embarrassment and tend to apologize constantly. Instead, they can express the teachings of their experiences by sharing mutual feelings. Some may experience guilt for things they have no control over and cannot intervene in. For example; Some people blame themselves for their parents' constant fighting, or someone who has lost a relative blames themselves by saying the word 'I wish', thinking there could have been different scenarios. They forget the idea that everyone is responsible for their own actions and try to control the outcome by thinking that everything is about themselves. "Life is uncertain and taking responsibility for our own actions makes us freer," he said.