How Should Parents Approach Their Children Going to School?

Üsküdar University NPİSTANBUL Hospital Specialist Clinical Psychologist Eda Ergür mentioned that the school environment will make it easier for children to cope with the difficult situation they face and gave important advice to parents.

Eda Ergür, who started her speech by mentioning that we are going through very difficult days as a country, said, “The effect of the great disaster we have been through still continues and we need to hold on to our lives even though it will continue. Especially our children need to be able to return to daily life in order to cope with what they are exposed to in this process. With the opening of the schools, our children will have both social support and routine arrangements that will feed their feelings of trust. School is where our children and youth belong. School benefits our children far beyond academic knowledge. Through school, our children and youth meet with their peers and meet their social support needs, while they internalize social values ​​and have an order that will make them feel safe.”

Specialist Clinical Psychologist Eda Ergür said that with the opening of schools, it will be easier for children to cope with this difficult situation they face. But on the other hand, Eda Ergür, who stated that the families had concerns, said, “What if the parents say, 'What if their fears are reinforced by what they tell each other, or if they learn about the situations that we did not tell, which they should not hear? may have such concerns. For this reason, it is very important for families to provide their children with real information about what happened in simple, clear and short terms.” said.

Eda Ergür, who said, "The more real information our child has in the face of the events, the easier it will be to cope with the new information he has acquired," said Eda Ergür, "Let's not forget that the unknown feeds anxiety. If our child does not have an idea about the information he has heard, he will have difficulty in what to do with this information that he cannot make sense of. He can cope with the situations that he associates with the knowledge he has much more easily. For this reason, being honest with our child, giving information appropriate to his age and development will prevent them from combining what they have learned with their peers with their unlimited imagination and feeding their anxiety.

Emphasizing that it is very important for parents to have a close relationship with their children who go to school every day, Eda Ergür said, “You should definitely share that he can talk to you and ask you if there is a situation that bothers him or is curious. No matter how difficult the subject it brings to you, be sure to answer it honestly, with real information, in short and simple language. Thus, they will no longer need to make sense of it with their vast imagination. It is necessary to exhibit an understanding attitude towards children, to make physical contact and to give them the opportunity to express their feelings.”

Specialist Clinical Psychologist Eda Ergür, who stated that children will be able to cope with and overcome the emotional difficulties they experienced after the earthquake much more easily in the school environment where they will be together with their friends and teachers, said, “It is very important to be with them with our love and support and to offer them a safe school environment in order to protect our children from the negativities experienced. . We will overcome these difficult days with love, unity and solidarity.