Acıbadem Maslak Hospital Specialist Psychologist Dilara Yamanlar Büyükkoç explained how to approach the report card correctly and made suggestions.
“Find the reason for low grades without judgment”
Communicating with the child, it is necessary to celebrate the completion of a good or bad term, and then try to find out the reason without judging the poor grades on his report card. Specialist Psychologist Dilara Yamanlar Büyükkoç said to the child, “You have completed a whole period with good and bad, there were points where you had difficulties, and points that you enjoyed. Congratulations on finishing another semester with a lot of experience. Let's evaluate this period a little bit, let's go over the grades on your report card together. I see a few classes here that are slightly lower than their other grades, why do you think that might have happened? How do you think you can improve this? How can we, as your parents, support you?'”.
“Appreciate his effort, voice his positive points”
In the second step in the right approach to the child; It is very important to be embracing, to appreciate his efforts, to express his positive points, and to show the aspects that he can improve at the same time. Specialist Psychologist Dilara Yamanlar Büyükkoç said, “You are very valuable to me, my love for you will never change, no matter the outcome. I see that you do very good things when you focus and try, and I believe that you will achieve much better results when you try hard enough. Let's hug, the upcoming period is a brand new period, what we do differently about it, the result will be different, let's talk about it a little bit," he said.
“Ask for his advice and show you understand”
The child should be told that he will start on vacation, but that he should start working with small steps regarding these low-level lessons, and his suggestion should be taken. Specialist Psychologist Dilara Yamanlar Büyükkoç “You are tired for a semester, you need a vacation, let's plan your vacation together, what are you planning to do? It would be a good start if we spare time for the subject repetitions related to the low courses, at which stage of the holiday would you prefer to put the repetition of the subject?' When the main framework is determined in the form of a main frame and the right to choose is left to the children, the work of the parents becomes easier and the children are more motivated.”
“Question Yourself”
Emphasizing that you should question yourself as the last step, Specialist Psychologist Dilara Yamanlar Büyükkoç stated that parents should talk to the child's teachers and listen to their suggestions for development, thinking 'where we may have missed, what we can do about follow-up, encouragement, and continuity of success'. he did.
“Do not exaggerate your reactions to the successful report card”
So, how should the reactions be in the face of a successful and even exceedingly good report card? Specialist Psychologist Dilara Yamanlar Büyükkoç stated that exaggerated gifts, labels such as 'you are smart' and praise should be avoided, and said, “This may cause a decrease in the effort of working for the gift or with the message 'I am already very smart'. What you need to do; to appreciate his effort, to say that you are proud of him, to go over the factors that affect his success, to talk about how this success made him feel, and to celebrate his success by hugging or going to dinner together. This attitude will be ideal to ensure the continuity of your child's success.
Underlining that it should not be forgotten that the report card is not an indicator of intelligence or success in life, Expert Psychologist Dilara Yamanlar Büyükkoç said, “It should be remembered that the report card is only the summary of a period or a year, and the child should also be reminded. In this way, we will increase the possibility of making a brand new start to the new period.”
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