Defiant opposition disorder, which is defined as the child's disobedience to authority, incompatible behaviors, frequent anger, breaking the rules set by the family, and crying very often, can be seen at the age of 2 years and adolescence. Specialist Clinical Psychologist İnci Nur Ülkü draws attention to the fact that these behaviors must continue for at least 6 months for a diagnosis of oppositional defiant disorder. Emphasizing the importance of family attitudes in the treatment of oppositional defiant disorder, Ülkü said that changing the attitudes of the parents will cause the child's attitudes to change as well.
Üsküdar University NPİSTANBUL Brain Hospital Specialist Clinical Psychologist İnci Nur Ülkü evaluated the oppositional behavior in children and suggested solutions.
Specialist Clinical Psychologist İnci Nur Ülkü stated that behaviors such as confrontation can be observed in some developmental stages of children and said, “Similar behaviors can be seen as developmental characteristics at the age of 2 and adolescence. Oppositional defiant disorder is a behavioral disorder that can be seen in young children and adolescents. said.
Inappropriate behavior and frequent crying may occur.
Specialist Clinical Psychologist İnci Nur Ülkü defined oppositional defiant disorder as “the child's disobedience to authority, incompatible behaviors, frequent anger, disobeying the rules set by the family, and crying very often”.
Must last at least 6 months
Noting that such behaviors can be observed in children and adolescents from time to time, Specialist Clinical Psychologist İnci Nur Ülkü said, “However, in children diagnosed with oppositional defiant disorder, it should continue continuously and for at least 6 months. This situation negatively affects the life of the child and his relationship with the people around him. These children may have tantrums. They may resist not doing as they are told. And when they have to, they can do it by being told.” he said.
It is important for parents to cooperate.
Pointing out that the family plays an important role in the treatment of oppositional defiant disorder, Specialist Clinical Psychologist İnci Nur Ülkü said, “It is necessary to cooperate with parents. Parents should be educated about their attitudes. Changing their attitudes will cause the child to change their attitudes as well.” he said.
Hear this advice
Specialist Clinical Psychologist İnci Nur Ülkü, who noted that children can experience and express their emotions intensely, listed her recommendations to families as follows:
In such situations, it is very important as parents to stay calm and try to understand their feelings. Words spoken in anger are often not what you really want to say. Give yourself some time.
When you are in intense emotions, short and clear sentences can be formed instead of making long sentences with the child. Emotions can be projected. "You're upset right now, how can I help you?"
Communicate with I language. Let's say your child is looking at his phone while he's talking about something. You got angry because he didn't look at you or listen to you. “You always do that, you never listen.” communication may be impaired. However, “I am uncomfortable with being taken care of on the phone while I am talking about something.” When you say that, you describe the disturbed behavior and express your own feeling.
Be clear in your rules. Children get a clear message about the rules if your words are backed up by your actions. When setting limits to children, it is necessary to explain the reasons well.
Connect with the kids. Children feel it right away when you try to play with it while your mind is elsewhere. They realize that you are not there, your mind is elsewhere. When spending time with your child, give him your full attention. Do not distract your attention with other things.
Listen to them, ask their opinion, and respect their opinion.
Focus on the positive. See their successes and positive behaviors so that they don't think that they only get your attention when they do negative behaviors. Pay more attention to the behaviors you want to continue.
If it persists despite a change in attitude, a specialist should be consulted!
Specialist Clinical Psychologist İnci Nur Ülkü concluded her words as follows:
“You can apply to a specialist for psychological support if your child's oppositional behavior continues despite changing attitudes as a parent, if he/she ignores what you say, does not follow the rules, exhibits aggressive behavior and negatively affects his/her life with the environment.”
Günceleme: 06/05/2022 18:01