Vaginismus is a disease that can be treated but harms marriages if it is not treated. Vaginismus is a problem that a woman can hardly find the courage to come to treatment. In this state, vaginismus is also called "postponement disease". Gynecologist, Sex Therapist, Gynecology and Obstetrics Specialist Op.Dr.Esra Demir Yüzer gave information about vaginismus and its treatment.
Vaginismus is the contraction of the pelvic floor (lower floor) muscles, that is, the muscles surrounding the vagina, against the will of the woman during sexual intercourse, and the intercourse becomes impossible or painful due to the narrowing of the vaginal entrance.
Vaginismus is not a disease. Vaginismus is a sexual adjustment problem. It is the result of subconscious problems. Vaginismus is a sexual phobia problem. Exaggerated and bad sexual stories experienced personally or heard from others in the past cause this phobia to develop. Vaginismus is a subconscious anxiety disorder that develops as a result of wrong teachings from childhood, which is more common in closed societies. Although very rare, it can also be caused by congenital or subsequent problems in the vagina.
In some societies, there are some teachings that are taught behaviorally and emotionally to girls from childhood, which can cause vaginismus when they grow up. The genitals should not be touched, the legs should be kept closed, and so on. Vaginismus is the first night fear. Fear of the first night occurs when women share their bad sexual experiences before marriage.
The woman raises this fear in her mind so much that she cannot have sexual intercourse with her beloved husband due to involuntary vaginal and body contractions, even though she wants it very much. Vaginismus is also seen in women who love their spouses. These women enjoy making love, their sexual desires are quite good. However, sexual intercourse does not occur due to contractions that they do not even realize during the introduction of the penis into the vagina.
These contractions may be in the legs, hips, arms or only the lower floor muscles so that some women cannot open their legs. In women who only have contractions in the lower floor muscles, the tip of the penis enters the vagina but cannot progress. Couples express this situation by saying "there is a wall, it is hitting the wall, it is not possible, it does not progress". There are many women with vaginismus problems who become pregnant in this way.
Vaginismus is a problem that a woman can hardly find the courage to come to treatment. In this form, vaginismus is also called "postponing disease". The woman always has an excuse not to come to treatment. However, the treatment of vaginismus is a problem that is 100%. All it takes is for the woman to trust herself and her sex therapist.
Vaginismus treatment is generally a very comfortable and simple process and is administered to the patient in accordance with the patient's distress. One of the most troublesome processes for vaginismus patients is what they will encounter in the treatment and whether they will be asked to do the things they are afraid to do.
In particular, examination and finger exercises become more nightmare for vaginismus patients than intercourse. Vaginismus treatment is a process based on the ability to manage one's anxiety and fears, to think clearly, and to see and live the facts. The treatment plan is arranged according to the identity and personality of the patient. While some patients overcome their problems only with information, some patients may need to go down to their mother, father and childhood relationships. In some patients, behavioral exercises and suggestion are beneficial. On the other hand, it can be applied to some patients by combining treatment methods containing every system, which we call combi. As a result, the treatment method to be chosen is chosen in accordance with the patient, and the things that the patient experiences distress, discomfort, and fear of doing are not desired. Completely the person is taught the ability to control their emotions.
It should not be forgotten that; Sex should not be a situation that should be postponed or avoided in marriage. If vaginismus is not treated, it can become such a big problem that it can even cause marriages to end. It should also be noted that divorce is not a cure for vaginismus. In sexual intercourse with a different man, the problem of vaginismus will continue. Therefore, it is necessary to seek professional help.
We have treated thousands of patients from every corner of Turkey and even abroad. There are such cases that there are patients whose treatment we complete in 1 hour, sometimes in 1 day, sometimes in 3 days.
The common words of women after vaginismus treatment are: "I wish I had come earlier." The treatment should not be postponed in order not to say I wish.
Do not forget that without delay, you can get rid of this disease in a short time with the right specialist in the right center. In this way, you can continue your marriage happily without being worn out financially and spiritually.