Specialist Clinical Psychologist Müjde Yahşi gave important information about the subject. If a child is unsuccessful, he usually blames him for not making an effort. However, the right approach and support of the family is of great importance in the success of the child.
Do not expect your child to be successful by emphasizing his failures, your expectation will make your child feel inadequate and anxious, as well as reinforcing the idea that he is a failed person.
Although highlighting the negativities may seem like a way for your child to learn from mistakes; By being belittled, humiliated or compared, no child can trust himself and never believe that he can be successful, because in order to believe this, parents must first believe.
Did your negative words to your child really contribute to your child's success? On the contrary, you know that it didn't work at all. Your child has begun to distance himself from you in a reluctant, unhappy and depressed mood.
So now try motivating your child by emphasizing his positive qualities. By saying motivational phrases (You can, kazanYou can do it, you can succeed…) reinforce self-schemas about yourself with your appreciation. Encourage the fears that he cannot face and the avoidance behaviors he shows with your positive words, make him believe that he can do anything he wants by believing in you first.
But first of all, pay attention to these 2 things; First, start with what your child can do, not with what they have trouble doing, so that the child first realizes that he can do it, second, ask your child a click more than he can do gradually so that your child can improve over time.