Specialist from Memorial Kayseri Hospital, Department of Psychology. Clinical Ps. Hande Taştekin gave information about narcissistic personality disorder. Personality is related to the person's level of perception of himself and his environment, the way he relates and his thoughts. Beginning in adolescence and youth and continuing for a long time; These are behavioral and adjustment disorders that cause problems in the family, work and social environment. There are many variants of this problem, which affects men and women equally. Personality disorders also cause psychological problems.
They consider themselves superior
Narcissism is a personality disorder that occurs when some individuals in the society constantly see themselves as superior to other people with increased self-confidence. They consider themselves superior to other people. However, not all people with these traits may have a personality disorder. The majority of individuals with narcissistic personality disorder live their lives with heightened self-confidence and a distorted self-esteem. These people expect the same feelings from their environment to be replicated. They mostly manifest themselves with self-centered personality traits, lack of empathy, over-exaggeration, success and power-dependent behaviors.
Symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder
People with narcissistic personality disorder;
- He sees himself above criticism.
- They exhibit manipulative behavior.
- He uses other individuals for his own gain.
- He wants to make friends with people who have the same status as him. But even when this happens, it competes with its environment with the urge to stay ahead.
- He exaggerates his own abilities and achievements and sees them as superior.
- He wants to be approved by creating environments where he will always be right.
- He expects constant praise and sets up a pressure environment for it.
- He finds other people less talented, less talented, less intelligent, and less beautiful than himself.
- It assumes that people are in a self-serving situation.
- Although he sees himself as a part of the society, he thinks that he deserves special treatment in this society and claims that he is the person at the top of the society.
- It exists through others.
- Generally, there are concepts such as worthlessness and lovelessness experienced in childhood on the basis of this disorder.
- No matter how self-confident he may seem on the outside, the concept of self-confidence is fragile inside, and showing it is his biggest fear.
The narcissist is professional in finding blame in others
Those with narcissistic personality disorder are extremely resistant to changing their problematic behaviors. Those with narcissistic personality disorder, They are professionals at finding blame in others. Even the smallest criticism can turn into disagreement, conflict and aggressive behavior. Narcissistic personality disorder can be seen in people of all ages, in all segments of society. According to DSM-IV, the incidence rate in the community was expressed as 6,2%. Studies have shown that narcissistic personality disorder is more common in men than in women.
They are perfect for their surroundings.
In their close relationships and especially by their friends, 'narcissistic' individuals seem perfect at first. They exhibit a personality structure that is loved, successful and praised. But he usually tries to get love through manipulative behaviors. They come to the fore with their superior ambition in success and with their accusatory behavior in the case of failure. People who have this problem usually impose concepts such as worthlessness and inadequacy on the person in front of them in terms of family and marriage and try to gain superiority by establishing a policy of isolating the person.
Regret is a sign of weakness
He usually tries to run his relations according to the order and command system. When they are out of this, they become angry and exhibit aggressive, passive-aggressive behaviors. The other person's life is none of his business. If he shows interest, he usually does it because he sees it as a routine necessity. When all relational dimensions are evaluated in total, this type of people are egocentric. For them, regret is a sign of weakness. However, they rarely experience regret at some point in their lives. When they realize that they have regrets, they usually close themselves off.
They care about their appearance
The diagnosis of this personality disorder is made only by a clinical psychologist or psychiatrist. The person's perfectionist, highly successful nature, the desire to be flawless and not accepting mistakes, the inability to empathize, the great importance to his appearance and the desire to be remarkable, the difficulties he experiences in his relationships due to constantly criticizing his environment and the resulting deterioration in the functional areas help in the diagnosis.
At its core is a sense of insecurity
Those with narcissistic personality disorder often have feelings of lovelessness and worthlessness that they experienced in childhood, and although they seem overconfident, there is a sense of insecurity at the root of this overconfidence. Preston Ni summed up the issue by saying, “Many narcissists get upset over small, simple incidents immediately, feeling like an 'ugly duckling' even if deep down they don't want to suffer.” While this type of people exaggerate their love in some periods, they can sometimes put the person they say they love to the ground, so to speak. Especially when they are loving at the beginning of the relationship, they change the course of the relationship over time and become a cruel and arrogant person.
long-term psychotherapy treatment
It is a disorder that often does not seem to be curable with medication. Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder are resistant to treatment. Therefore, the treatment should be handled by a clinical psychologist with a long-term psychotherapy method. Cognitive behavioral therapy is often used in therapy methods. It is the group of diseases that therapists have the most difficulty with. The recovery of those with narcissistic personality disorder depends on a long course of therapy. However, medications are given for anxiety disorder and depression caused by personality disorder. Thanks to drugs, the growth of personality disorder due to other problems can be prevented.
How to treat someone with narcissistic personality disorder?
- The boundaries of behavior towards a narcissistic person should be made clear.
- Emotionally and psychologically, all manipulative behaviors should be limited and not allowed.
- It should not be shown and made to feel that it is approached with the fear of losing it.
- If you have a fear of losing the person, the underlying cause should also be determined.
- We should not have feelings of guilt, worthlessness or inadequacy in the presence of a narcissistic person. The task of nourishing the ego of the narcissistic personality should not be taken.
- No attempt should be made to change or correct it.
- Positive or negative feelings towards a narcissistic person should be clearly expressed.