How to direct children about self-confidence? BÜMED MEÇ Schools Fashion School Principal Aslı Çelik Karabıyık shared on the subject.
BÜMED MEÇ Schools aim to raise individuals who are curious, questioning, original and free thinking, who have the skills of the century, students who have the skills of research, critical and analytical thinking, can communicate effectively, have self-confident, social skills, creative, ethical values, nature. aims to be individuals who are compatible with, versatile, culturally aware and equipped.
BÜMED MEÇ Schools, aiming to lead by making a difference in education by making a difference with its innovative, scientific and developmental studies, aiming to create an environment where students can enjoy producing rather than consuming, attaches importance to school-family cooperation in child development and includes the family in all stages of education. BÜMED MEÇ Schools, which regularly organize trainings and seminars in this framework with the principle that it is very important for the family and the school to have a common language and understanding in terms of developing self-esteem and self-confidence in children, conveys information to parents by publishing bulletins.
“Self-confidence is of great importance to be happy and successful not only in the academic field, but also in the social and emotional field, as is the case with many other features. While supporting self-esteem, it is very important to first understand the temperament of the child, then to give responsibilities appropriate to his age, to create opportunities for self-evaluation by giving value to his own opinions and feelings, to give individual feedback, to create a space for self-knowledge and expressing his feelings. BÜMED MEÇ Schools Fashion School Principal Aslı Çelik Karabıyık, who said that the important point while giving feedback is to appreciate his efforts and efforts instead of giving awards, shared the subject for families.
1. Let's try to recognize the child's temperament and interests.: The child's self-confidence begins with the people closest to him and whom he trusts most, with respect to his or her own resources. The effort we make to recognize his characteristics, strengths, development and interests creates a feeling of being seen worthy of recognition and understanding. Of course we always want the best for our children, but this 'kindness' must be linked to well-being. Let's create opportunities for our children to discover their strengths and interests.
2. Let's give age appropriate responsibilities: One of the most important steps in the development of children's self-confidence is the ability to experience the sense of success by taking responsibilities appropriate for their age. Let's not forget that there are areas in which every individual is strong and the more diverse opportunities and space we create, the easier it is to explore them. Although the age-period characteristics are general, the speed of skill development of children can be very different from each other. Let's create opportunities where he can taste success so that he can feel what he can do first. Of course, not everyone can be satisfied with the work they can easily do, so let's increase the difficulty level of their responsibilities in a balanced way by observing him closely.
3.Let's create an opportunity for self-evaluation: One of the important elements of self-confidence is internal motivation. Extrinsic motivation can be a driving force, but if we are talking about a permanent and healthy self-confidence, the individual must first be satisfied with his own work. For this, let's create an opportunity to evaluate his works, his day and himself regularly, let's take his opinion. At this point, let's not forget that a child's repertoire of knowledge and experience is limited by what he or she goes through. For this reason, it would not be right to evaluate a situation that the child has experienced once as unsuccessful or negative because he is not satisfied. For example, when ending the day, 'What did I do well today? What made me happy? What surprised? What can I do better? What should I do for this? ' It will be an important start to create an opportunity for him to direct questions such as himself and to listen to them without judgment in this process.
4. Let us give feedback: Feedback given by adults plays a very important role in children's self-esteem development. It is very important that the language and style we use here is constructive, away from judicial expressions and given at the right time and in the right environment. Here, in order not to create dependence on feedback and external approval, let's take care to create an opportunity for the child to evaluate himself, then to express our views and observations concretely and to make him feel our belief to improve what he is doing.
5.Encourage him to express his feelings.: Recognizing our emotions and expressing them correctly is a factor that increases our self-confidence. The fact that we, as parents, express our feelings first will serve as role models for children. Maybe at dinner 'How was your day? What did you do? What did you feel?' It may open the door for us to share how our day passed, what we did, what surprised and saddened us before questions such as questions like, and to share his feelings with us and other people.
6. Let us appreciate your efforts: 'You're great, well done!' When your child achieves something during play or in their daily activities. Instead of saying 'How hard have you tried to do this?', while motivating him, it also increases his tolerance for failure. Some of these might include being open to possibilities that will keep his natural curiosity awake and to introduce him to people he will be inspired by, to share success stories gained as a result of effort in whatever job or field.